As a generally introverted and what i would call a "shy" person, I have always had trouble with the praise that someone gets for being totally outgoing, adventurous or outwardly friendly. It always seemed like if you were "outgoing" you were on your way to a successful life, while a shy kid is doomed to hiding behind the proverbial parents leg for all eternity. I have always felt that I must lack something...that I'm worse for wear...that I'm still behind the starting line. I manage to get over it a lot...I can put on a good front and chat it up, be the life of the part at times, and even in many cases appear totally comfortable in a large group. But in pretty much every circumstance, I'd rather be with friends (or alone), relaxing on someone's couch, away from a crowd.
Well psychologist Susan Cain says that "shy" kids, actually, are no worse off, and in fact, may not be shy at all. They are largely introverted, which isn't a bad thing, and being introverted actually tends to lead to better performance in some areas of life...take a read and if your shy, be proud or at least give yourself a quick pat on the back (when no one's looking of course).
http://ideas.time.com/2012/01/26/dont-call-introverted-children-shy/
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